Let’s first emphasize that vibrators and masturbation are awesome. This is not in any way saying we should think a vibrator or her masturbation is something to contend with. However, I think the comparison of how women typically masturbate with the opportunity to stimulate her vaginally shows that we can potentially touch her in a way she’s never been touched before and give her even more powerful orgasms.
When most women masturbate, with a vibrator or not, they typically stimulate their clitoris. Her clitoris is very sensitive and it’s the only organ who’s sole purpose is sexual stimulation. This type of stimulation leads to a clitoral orgasm. This is an awesome orgasm that’s typically described as being more local to the genitals. It can be difficult to achieve these orgasms during intercourse without manual stimulation from her or her partner. Alternatively, women are also capable of having orgasms from stimulation to the inside of the vagina. These types of orgasms are called vaginal orgasms and they are described as more of a full body experience. Vaginal orgasms can also lead to squirting orgasms, which is when a woman ejaculates (from her urethra) during the time of orgasm and her body shakes for sometime multiple minutes. These vaginal orgasms can be achieved through stimulation of her g-spot or her a-spot. Since most women are not used to this type of direct stimulation on the inside of their vagina there is an opportunity to give her a different (and possibly more powerful) orgasm than she’s used to from masturbation.
Vibrators have been around since the late 1800s. Doctors used vibrators up until the early 1900s to cure “Female Hysteria”. This was actually just built up sexual tension in women and doctors would literally stimulate her clitoris until she had an orgasm. She’d go home relaxed and happy and people back then didn’t even consider this a sexual act, let alone an orgasm. We’ve come a long way in a relatively short amount of time. Now vibrators come in every shape, color, and texture you can imagine. Women have “sex parties” in their homes and talk about and order new toys to add to their collection. This is beautiful, and it’s so important any one to explore their own sexuality and understand their own body and mind and their potential for orgasm. Women who explore their bodies are more likely to orgasm with their partner because they know what they like.
A big part of female orgasms is the mental side. Brain scans show that the “thinking” part of the brain needs to quiet down in order to let go and orgasm. This can be difficult for some women, and some women self sabotage unknowingly by “trying” to orgasm. As her partner we have a unique opportunity to engage her mind in a way she can’t get when she’s masturbating, and this can be the difference in her ability to orgasm. Make her super present to the moment and the orgasm will seemingly “just happen”, and you’ll have a very happy woman on your hands.